My boyfriend told his daughter-in-law about my diagnosis without asking me if it was okay

A couple of days ago, my boyfriend told me that he needed to tell me something. He has been spending a lot of time with his family over the past week because one of his sons and his family is here visiting from the west coast. He told me that while he was recently talking to his daughter in law, who lives about two and a half hours from us and who I've met twice that he told her something about me. He told her that I had dementia, but I was doing very well. I'm not sure why he told her that I had dementia but all I know is that I wasn't happy that he talked to her about me without asking me first. He told me that it is always better to be honest.

He also said that he never meant to hurt me, but that the words just seemed to come out of his mouth. He is close to his daughter in law. He also said that as soon as the words were said, he realized that he had made a mistake.

The next time that I spend time with his family, including his daughter-in-law, I don't even know if I can be myself. Knowing that they know this about me makes me angry at my boyfriend! It took me a while to process all that he has told me. At least, for now anyway, I'm not crying! He did apologize and he does feel badly, but I'm still crushed by this! It is so hard for me to stay mad at him. We talked about what happened and he truly is sorry and I believe him.

I just have to wait and see what happens when I spend time with them. I also have no way of knowing if she has shared this information with the rest of the family. I’m so sad that this is now out of my control.

I told him that it needs to be my choice who I tell about my memory impairment and he said that he understands that.

I choose who I tell that I have a memory impairment. I think that one of the reasons that I feel so strongly about it being my choice who I tell about my memory impairment is because I want people to know me, not someone who has a problem with their brain. I don't want to be treated any differently! I don't want to be judged!